I'm thinking that they can have all the conversations they like, but until there are real, provable actions, neither of them is going to believe in themselves.

Heh. I don't think Spike frequented strip clubs when he was focused on Buffy, maybe because there weren't any in Sunnydale that we know of. I also can't imagine that having a soul would have much to do with it. I did find souled-Spike hanging out in strip clubs in AtS S5 jarring, though, so I guess I'm trying to work that out a bit. My thinking is that it's something he might do if he's feeling rejected, but probably not as a regular thing. Buffy is unlikely to be very understanding regardless.